Joe wrote this autobiography when he was in eighth grade.
My family lived in St. Louis, Missouri for many
generations. Before I was born, my family moved to Kentucky. I guess
my Dad didn't like it there because by the time I was born, we were living in
St. Louis again. I was in St. Louis in St. Mary's hospital during the 1982
World Series and the Cardinals won that year. The doctors were sidetracked when
I was born watching the game and stuff. I think my Mom got mad at that
because she told them to turn it off. My mother is visually impaired (she
is blind), but she wasn't when I was born. She started going blind when I
was about three but the always managed to take care of us. She drove a
red Honda Civic and she worked in the courts as a Spanish Interpreter. Now
my Mom works at home as a Spanish Interpreter for ATT Language Lines. She
speaks Spanish and her family is from Bolivia. My dad worked at
Venture. It's like a K-mart in St. Louis. He worked in the
Merchandising Department. When I was young I attended St. Dominic Savio
Catholic Grade School for four years.
I attended St. Dominic Savio Catholic Grade School as I said
in Chapter 1. It was kind of rough in St. Louis but that was only for
certain kids. I pretty much stayed away from them. The public
schools around the area where I lived were pretty bad. The kids there at
the public schools were in High School. I guess I was always intimidated
by public schools or maybe just bigger schools. I never thought I would
ever have to go to one. I thought it was for poor kids or something.
I guess I didn't know any better.
My family was always very religious and were strong Catholics. We have
always gone to church and kept the Sabbath Day holy. I think my Mom was the
one who wanted to send us to Catholic Schools. I really don't think my Dad
cared.
My Dad was always good to us. He really spoiled us, but
that was good I guess. My Dad worked at Venture as an accountant or something
like that. My Dad's cousin had a business opportunity for him. They
wanted to go in business for themselves. My Dad went into business with
them.
The business went bad after a while and my Dad ended up owing a lot to money so
we didn't buy as much stuff for a while, and my Dad got a job at Venture again.
My Dad worked at Venture for a long time, as far as I can remember.
Venture was the only place we shopped usually. Businesses started calling
him from all over the country asking him to work for them, but he didn't want us
to move away from our friends.
When we were living in St. Charles, me and my brothers attended
St. Cletus Catholic School. We liked it there but we really didn't show
it. I made some really good friends there that I miss a lot. I keep
in touch with them but not as much as I used to.
My brother graduated from grade school and went on to high school with my other
brother. I think he really liked it there, and I know I would have.
I was looking forward to high school because that's where all my friend were
going to go.
I always went to the football and basketball games. I started getting to
know the coaches and the people that went to that high school. So as you
know it was very hard to move to Orlando when we were so settled there.
When my Dad told us that he had a chance to move to Orlando, I
guess I got excited and I wanted to move. I like any kind of change I
guess. So I told my friends that I was moving and they didn't listen to me
because they thought I was joking.
My Dad had to go on to Orlando for his interview with Disney. He got the
job and moved down there three months before us. We went down there for a
week to look at houses and to go to Disney during those three months. I really
liked Disney then, but now it's getting kind of old. So later we made the
move to Orlando.
The move was very hard on me but it got better when I got to visit my friends in
St. Louis. When I first came to this school, the kids were different and
so was the environment, but I soon adjusted and met a lot of people. I
guess it's better now. I just got back from visiting my friends over
Winter break. I'm going back this summer when I get my grades, so I hope I
get a good grade in this class.
|
|
Joseph
Eckles' Biography |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Joseph Nicholas Eckles was born on October 19 of 1982. He was the
youngest son |
| of
Gene and Jan Eckles. Jan had often said she wanted to have all our
children before |
| she
turned 30, and she made it by one week. When Joe was born , Jason was 4
1/2 |
| and
Jeff was 1 1/2. We definitely had our hands full with these 3 very active
boys. We |
| lived
in south St. Louis in a small 2 bedroom house. For the first year and a
half of |
| Joe's
life he slept in the same bedroom with his brothers. Jason and Jeff in a
bunkbed |
| and
Joe in his crib. Whenever Joe would wake up at night , his brothers would
talk to |
| him
until he went back to sleep. |
|
|
|
|
|
Just before Joe turned 2 , we moved to a larger house a couple of
miles away in an |
| area
called Affton. The new house had 4 bedrooms, so each boy had their own
room. |
| But
when we moved in, Joe didn't like sleeping by himself , so for the first 6
months |
| in
the new house Joe slept with his brother Jeff. It was in this house that
Joe met his |
| first
best friend, Brent Yanics. Brent lived two houses down from us and was the
same |
| age as
Joe. They became best friends right away. A lot of firsts happened with
Brent, |
| learning
how to ride a bike, going to kindergarten, starting to play sports. Joe
made |
| many
other friends when we lived in Affton including Jeffrey Harris and Brian
Winkeler. |
|
A famous story about Joe during this time is when he was playing
with his friends |
| and
riding down our street face down on a skateboard when he went under a
parked |
| car. In
the process of going under or coming out he put a gash in the back of his
head. |
| This
was the first of many trips Joe and I made to the emergency room. From
that day |
| forward
Joe had a scar on the back of his head where no hair grew. |
|
|
When Joe was going into the 4th grade we moved again to the St.
Charles area in |
| St.
Louis. It was tough for Joe to leave his friends in Affton but by this
time Joe's |
| personality
was emerging and he quickly made new friends in St. Charles. We still |
| have
the video of Joe's 10th Birthday shortly after we moved into the new
house. The |
| video
shows Joe with his Affton friends and his new St. Charles friends together |
| celebrating
his birthday. The significance of this event is that 9 years later and 2
months |
| before
Joe died, some of the same boys from these two groups came down to Orlando |
| during
the same week and visited with Joe. They had a fantastic time and I can
only |
| believe
that this was God's hand getting these boys together one last time before
Joe |
| left
this world. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
We stayed in St. Charles for about 3 1/2 years until Joe was in 7th
grade. Joe |
| seemed
to have a lot of best friends in St. Charles, Brian Wuelling, Greg Dauer,
Jack |
| Conner,
Kurt Hunter and really 5 or 6 others. They seemed to run in a pack, but
Joe |
| also
loved being with any of them one on one. One of the reasons these boys got
so |
| close
is that they were all in the same class and played all the sports
together. Joe |
| emerged
as the ring leader of the group. He was always calling someone to get |
| together
somewhere. This was a trait of Joe's that he continued throughout his
life. |
| Beside
sports and hanging out, Joe's favorite activity with his friends was on
the |
| holidays
especially the 4th of July and Halloween. I think Joe loved these times
because |
| of
the activities involved. He loved to watch and shoot off fireworks and
dress up on |
| Halloween
and go trick or treating with his friends. |
|
|
|
|
The house in St. Charles had a basketball court on the side
driveway and was lit |
| up at
night. Joe, his brothers and I would go out there day and night to play
ball. I would |
| always
try to match up with Joe because he was the youngest and if he played with |
| one of
his brothers he would always end up arguing about some pass or shot and |
| we'd
never finish the game. Joe loved to argue. This was a trait he also
carried with |
| him
throughout his life. We always said Joe would make a great lawyer because
he |
| loved
to argue about anything and everything. |
|
|
|
|
Joe was never a very studious person. He never seemed to be able to
sit long |
| enough
to concentrate on something. During his 4th - 6th grade we had him tested |
| for
ADD. Some of Joe’s teachers
mentioned that he might have ADD so we took him to the doctor. although
when the pediatrician initially suggested that Joe might benefit from
Ritalin, we were not convinced but decided to follow the doctor’s
suggestion. He took it for several months but we learned that when he
didn’t take it, there was no difference in his behavior. Testing of his
IQ and other psychological test given to him by the Public School District
revealed that his intelligence was significantly above average and his
“misbehavior” in class was due to his boredom with the curriculum. |
| .
But, during this time Joe had difficulties with some of his teachers. When
Joe |
| was in
5th grade he had a young lady teacher fresh out of college. He seemed to |
| do
well that year and Joe remarked that that’s they way he liked his
teachers, young |
| and
inexperienced. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
One of the things about St. Louis that Joe and his brothers really
loved was the |
| snow -
unless they were shoveling the driveway. When it snowed in St. Louis it
many |
| times
meant that school was cancelled for the day. Joe loved it when it snowed.
He |
| would
put on all his snow garb and run out with his brothers and friends to make
snow |
| angels,
have a snowball fight, build a snowman or sled down a hill. When he
finally |
| would
come inside wet and freezing, it would only be for a minute and back out
he'd go. |
| One of
the things the boys missed most about moving away from St. Louis was snow. |
|
In March of 1996 when Joe was almost at the end of 7th grade we
moved to |
| Orlando.
Prior to the move we talked with the boy's about how they would feel about |
| moving.
They all agreed the move would be positive , but none of us realized how
much |
| the
boys would miss their friends from St. Louis. The first year in Orlando
was very |
| hard
on Joe. I remember going into his room one night after we had been in
Orlando |
| about
a year and he looked so sad. I asked him what he was thinking about and he |
| said
he just missed his friends from St. Louis so much. But, Joe was building
new |
| friendships
in Orlando and soon he had another army of guys that he ran with. |
|
Joe's first best friend in Orlando was Justin Weber. Justin lived a
couple houses |
| down
from us and met Joe walking to the bus. Justin has an outgoing personality |
| and
came up to Joe and said ' so you’re the new kid - come with me and I'll
show you |
| the
ropes'. That was the beginning of a friendship that will never end. Justin
fit right in |
| between
Joe and Jeff. Justin was one year older than Joe and one year younger than |
| Jeff.
The three of them did everything together. When Joe got to high school,
the three |
| of
them played football together, wrestled together and played lacrosse
together. They |
| also
tended from time to time to get into mischief together. Joe and Jeff spent
as much |
| time
down at Justin's house as Justin spent at our house. We loved having the
boys |
| around. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
Most of Joe's friends came from the sports he played. That was
Joe's life , make it |
| through
the school day so he could get to practice, then come home to call his
friends |
| and
make arrangements for the night. From the time Joe hit high school we
always had |
| a
parade of friends come to the house. Some we would see just once or twice
, others |
| we
would see all the time like Justin, Jason Lewis, Elthon Fritz, Chasse Green,
Dominique |
| Crupi,
Jason Retherford , Justin Porter and many others. These were all great
kids who |
| loved
being together and having fun. |
|
|
|
|
|
Even before Joe started high school he was involved in sports, but
while he was in |
| high
school it became his passion. He loved the competition of sports. Joe was
the kind |
| of guy
who would play hard, be very competitive on the field, but when the game
was |
| over -
win or lose - he left it behind and just wanted to get together with his
friends. Joe |
| started
with football. He progressed in his abilities each year he played. In his
junior |
| and
senior years he was a starting middle linebacker and in his senior year
set the |
| school
record for the most tackles. After football was wrestling. Joe told me
once that |
| one of
the reasons he liked wrestling was because it was just him and his
opponent |
| on the
mat. He couldn't look any further for success or failure but to himself.
As Joe |
| got
stronger, his wrestling success improved. He twice competed and placed at
the |
| regional
tournament. The sport that Joe had the most passion for was lacrosse. He |
| was
introduced to the sport in 8th grade when his brother Jeff was playing in
high |
| school.
Joe immediately fell in love with the game. For four years Joe & Jeff
walked |
| around
the house with lacrosse sticks in their hands constantly practicing their
hold |
| and
cradling the ball. Joe followed his brother Jeff as a mid fielder and high
scorer for |
| the
team. At the end of Joe's senior year his lacrosse number 33 was retired. |
|
In Joe's sophomore year he started getting into weightlifting. He
started lifting at |
| school,
then we got him and his brothers a membership to the World's Gym by our |
| house.
In his senior year we bought a professional weight set and put it in our
garage. |
| Joe,
his brothers and friends were in the garage all
the time lifting weights. Joe was |
| the
leader. He knew the correct methods and procedures. He also knew the right |
| nutritional
supplements to get the best results. In Joe's senior year he participated |
| on the
school's weightlifting team. Joe tied for 1st place at regionals in his
weight |
| class
and placed in the state tournament. |
|
|
|
|
|
Joe's work life was a little varied. During his last two years in
high school he worked |
| for me
in the retail stores we operated. When we closed down the company Joe got
a |
| job at
Bally's Fitness Centers. It seemed like a logical job for Joe because he
was a |
| weight
lifter and he loved to talk to people. In a short time he rose to be a top
salesman |
| and
the assistant manager of a club. But Joe didn't like some of the sales
tactics |
| employed
by Bally's and left to take a job as a warehouseman at Ryder. He loved |
| working
at Ryder. He liked the people there and they treated him with respect. Joe |
| began
the job with Ryder during the summer of 2002. He worked full time. Joe
initially |
| thought
he could work full time and go to school at night. But in August when
school |
| began,
the hours were too much for Joe. So in late August he gave his notice at
Ryder |
| and
told them he'd stay until they found a replacement. Joe was still working
at Ryder |
| at the
time of his death on September 7th 2002. |
|
|
|
|
No story of Joe's life would be complete without Bonnie. Joe and
Bonnie Freeman |
| met in
their freshman year of high school (see the story written by Joe in his
writings). |
| They
hit it off right away. Joe and Bonnie both had very strong personalities,
but they |
| seemed
to hold each other in check. Bonnie was more focused while Joe was more |
| carefree.
I don't think Joe would have gotten through high school (gradewise)
without |
| Bonnie.
She would say "Mr. Eckles, Joe and I are going upstairs to
study" I loved to |
| hear
that. No relationship is without it's issues however, Joe and Bonnies
arguments |
| were
legendary. Every once in a while they would fight, then they would break
up, then |
| they
would get back together again. This became such a routine that whenever
Joe |
| would
come to me and say Bonnie and he had broken up , I would chuckle to myself |
| and
say wait until tomorrow. Sure enough they were back together again and
heading |
| off to
someplace. During one of these breakups when Bonnie and Joe were in their
senior |
| year
of high school I asked Joe if it was time to date somebody else - He told
me he didn't |
| want
to be with anybody else, he felt so comfortable with Bonnie. I think he
went up to |
| his
room right then and called her. It was Bonnie who gave CPR to Joe and
tried to revive |
| him
on the night he died. Even though they were young, I don't think any love
could have |
| been
stronger than two people could have felt at 19 years of age. |
|
|
|
I'm going to finish this biography talking about our family. Joe
was blessed with having |
| grandparents
who loved him. His MauMau and Paupau took Joe and his brothers all over |
| the
country in their motorhome, his Ito and Ita lived with us and looked out
for Joe's every |
| need
and his grandma talked with him endlessly about things going on his life
whenever |
| she
would visit. Jan and I loved Joe as any parent would love their child. We
went to every |
| football
game, wrestling match, lacrosse game and school function. We talked with
him |
| we
laughed with him we cried with him. We had our challenging times as any
parent and |
| teenager
has, but through it all Joe knew we loved him and we knew Joe loved us. We |
| have
always been and continue to be very proud of our Joe. The last few
sentences will |
| be
about Joe and his brothers. I don't think their could be three siblings
closer than these |
| three
guys. From the earliest age they were always together. There was only 4
1/2 years |
| between
them. They would do anything for each other. They looked out for each
other. They |
| played
together, hung out together, challenged each other, argued with each
other, helped |
| each
other, laughed together and were brothers together. Joe will always be in
their hearts |
| and
mind as he will always be in ours. Joe died 6 weeks shy of his 20th
birthday, Jason |
| was
24 and Jeff was 21. |
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
|
| We
love you Joe - now and forever.
Dad. |
|
|
|
|